Moral Fibre

Apparently fibre is good for you. Keeps you reg'lar. That's if you believe the hot little chick with the seemingly perfect life that got it all in the morning. Advertising would like us to believe that if we take a regular crap, all our problems will disappear and we and our lives will be perfect. They lie. I have proof. There is absolutely nothing wrong with my bowel movements and I am still single, slightly over-weight, greying and not as wealthy as I'd hoped I'd be at my age. But that's not actually what this blog is about. The fibre I would like to talk about is a whole different kettle of monkeys.

Moral fibre won't necessarily keep you going to the loo a lot (although it might), but it does have something to do with who you are, deep inside. I have often thought about morals/morality and was reminded about it by BoigzTheBlogger today. He actually suggested I write about this. Morals are nifty things. What people don't often realise, is that they change with us, as we change as people. Things that were completely taboo a while back, might be absolutely fine today. This, both for individuals and in societies. Usually the change is towards a more liberal view, but it can go more conservative as well. It just depends on how we think at that moment. 

When you grow up, you are taught (hopefully) that smoking, drinking, drugs, stealing is all bad. So is sex. For some people it is the premarital version that is wrong. Some believe that all sex is just bad and horrible (and should be shot). As we get older, people start experimenting with various things. Some try cigarettes, some booze, some weed... This is generally all done in secret, because we don't want to get caught. Because it's wrong. And naughty. And we're gonna get moered if somebody finds out. The smoking ends up looking cool (or so we think). The booze is heaps of fun. The weed is chill maaaaan.... We decide that we kinda like these things that were so against our beliefs. The morals change to accommodate these new ideas. Some continue smoking, some drink more, some get high any chance they get. And then one day a person decides you know, this getting high thing just isn't for me. It screws stuff up man. They go completely anti drugs and never touch anything like that again. The morals shift to accommodate these views as well. But stealing. Stealing stays wrong for everybody forever, right? Not if you're really struggling. Then it becomes a way to stay alive. Not if you're stealing from somebody that has always had more than you. Then it just evens the score. Not if you couldn't give a sh*t about rules, because when has the system ever been there for you? 

Bugger. Sorry. Started getting a bit heavy there. I'll try to tone it down. The bottom line is that morals, no matter how much store we put in them, are not static things. Our moral compass works very much like Captain Jack Sparrow's does. It kinda points the way we want it to. Should it be so? Probably not. But if you can go to bed at night, proud of how you did something or how you handled a situation and not be ashamed of your actions, then I guess you're doing alright.


But that's not all. If you read now, you will get the extended version. 

What Boigz and I talked about was a specific bit of morality. It links in with the buddy code. That mythical contract between all male friends. "You don't go for your buddy's girl." That is just nasty. You WILL lose a friend that way. Maybe more than one. But then there is also "You don't go for your buddy's ex". And "You don't go for any girl your buddy is interested in. Ever". Now to me, that's just silly. While yes, one should not covet they neighbour's ass or wife it doesn't mean any ass or wife thy neighbour has ever seen. If a friend breaks up with somebody and things are still raw and he's still hurting, don't go and shag his ex in front of him. That's a bit rude. Out of respect and a level of kindness one would hope exists between friends, give him time to heal, at least a bit, before you go rubbing his face in it. If things don't work out between people, nobody (including the hurting ex) has the right to expect the two parties from this break-up to never be in a relationship again. And besides, that's stupid. If an ex and a friend can make each other happy, then let them. Wouldn't you rather have a mate that you trust date a girl that you (at least once) cared about, rather than some tool, that you don't know, that will give her grief in the end?

As for the other rule, well, if your buddy is actually interested in a girl and at least tries to make this interest visible to said girl, then back off. If she's not interested in him then, he has no claim on her and she's fair game. If your buddy is interested in a girl and never makes any attempt at making this known, then he can't just go calling dibs. Especially if he bloody well goes and calls dibs on any nice girl that he sees. You can't go creating a virtual dreamworld harem for yourself in the real world. Complete silliness.


I might have started to ramble a bit at the end there. These were some of my morally guided thoughts. They have changed over the years and probably will again. Yours are allowed to as well.


TFLNOTD:

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this is your 3rd pregnancy scare in 2 years, I think its time for you to re-evaluate the whole 'im a lesbian' thing